Dating is complicated enough without all the drama of figuring out how to attract a first date, let alone anything after that!
Let’s say you did manage to nab a date with Mr. Hottie — how do you ensure a second date in a (nearly) fool-proof way?
Keep reading to find out how I manage to get a second date (and third, and fourth…) nearly every time. These tips just might work for you, too!
Flattery
The old saying, “Flattery will get you everywhere,” has its merits, but you don’t want to overdo it. When you’re on a date, find something genuine to compliment him on. You can compliment his looks, of course, but it’s a good idea to find something beyond appearances to compliment as well.
For example, let’s say your date has very good manners (well, we hope so – otherwise, why would you date him to begin with?!) and he constantly opens doors for you all evening, pulls out your chair so you may sit at the restaurant, etc. Compliment him on his chivalry!
You can say something to the effect of, “It’s refreshing to see a man who still knows how to treat a lady. You’re really polite!” Now you’ve boosted his ego and genuinely complimented him on something other than his looks.
Attentiveness
If you’re on a date with someone who interests you, paying attention to him should come naturally — but you’d be surprised how easy it can be to get wrapped up in yourself and not pay two seconds of attention to the man you’re with.
In other words, avoid checking out other men (for crying out loud, you’re on a date!) and keep your attention focused on the man you are with. If he’s not doing the same, by all means say something to him, but if you two are having a great time then it’s important to show him how much you enjoy being out with him.
Listen to his stories, laugh at his jokes and show him you are genuinely interested in him as a person. Trust me, men will pick up on this!
Honesty
Don’t start the date off on the wrong foot by telling lies. If you plan to have a second date with this man (and possibly more), your best bet is to be honest from the get-go.
This doesn’t mean you have to spill your entire life story on the first date (this will simply scare him, and rightfully so!) Instead, be forthright about anything that comes up. Even “little” lies are a big no-no, especially when you consider the other lies you’ll end up telling to keep your cover up.
If he asks you questions (even trivial things) be honest — he’s not asking because he hopes you’ll lie. Besides, if you even want to entertain the idea of this guy turning into something more than a casual dating partner, it’s important to be open and up front with him. Honesty really is the best policy.
These are certainly not the only ways women can nab that second date, but they are the top three factors in deciding whether he’ll like you enough to call you again. Of course, you don’t have to wait for him to call; if the evening went really well, try suggesting another date at the end of the first one.
Being honest and being interested in the man you’re with are nearly fool-proof tactics to ensuring you grab a second date. Try them out yourself and see what happens!
