Category: Mother & Child

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The Mommy Comparison: “My Child is Better Than Your Child”

Whenever two or more mothers get together the conversation inevitably turns into a child growth and development comparison and bragging session. It starts from the moment children are conceived. Mothers discuss and compare their pregnancies, births, and children’s development. They often determine their own maternal successes and failures based on these discussions. There is not only an unofficial...

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Straight Talk about IUI

When my husband and I were diagnosed with infertility we were told that our best chance for conceiving would be with Intra-uterine Insemination (IUI). We decided not to pursue that option but several of my friends in my online infertility support group did. One of them recently agreed to talk with me about her experience. Brieanne is...

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Staying in Eating Disorder Recovery While Pregnant

When my husband and I were diagnosed with dual infertility and told that the only way we would conceive was through medical procedures, I was devastated. In that moment, and the weeks that followed, I felt that I would give anything to have a baby, and no sacrifice could be too big. A short time later...

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Staying Healthy During Infertility

You have the stick on the bathroom counter but your back is to it because you aren’t sure you want to see what it says. This makes the umpteenth time that you have peed on a stick in three years and, though you really think this time is it, you just don’t want the disappointing confirmation...

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Secondary Infertility Hurts Differently, but Just as Much

I was vaguely aware during my pregnancy that infertility would hurt a second time around, but I wasn’t fully prepared for just how much. I had enough awareness at the time that I can read now through my journals and old blog posts and see that I wrote, “I am so grateful for this chance to experience pregnancy,...

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Pregnancy: What’s Normal and What Isn’t

I can’t tell you how many times during my pregnancy things would happen to my body and I would frantically wonder, “Is this supposed to be happening or not?” Thankfully, I had friends who had been pregnant before me and could tell me what I should be worried about and what I just needed to deal...

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Practice Makes Perfect

Two of my children’s favorite phrases are “Mommy, can you help me?” and “I can’t do this!” Of course we all know that what they are really asking is “Will you do this?” or “Will you give me the answer?” Though sometimes it is easier or more convenient to just do it ourselves, especially when pressed for time,...

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Infertility: What Helps, What Doesn’t

I couldn’t believe how much it hurt. Just that one word, staring up at me from the yellow paper I was to hand to the receptionist at the doctor’s office: Infertility. I was in for a routine asthma visit and when I was asked, “Is there any chance you’re pregnant?” I snorted and said, “I wish!”...